We all have these moments in life. Maybe the roof just collapsed on your bed last night. Maybe you’re served with absurd incidents on a daily basis and no one seems to care (why did the dog need to pee on that new couch when you came home after a 12-hour work day?). Maybe your boss is getting crazier than usual. Or maybe it’s all of it at the same time. In all cases, here is a point-by-point list on what to do when poop hits to the fan:
- Do NOT get on your phone
I’m the first sinner here, but I still say it: when the heat get turned up, do not grab your favorite tech gadget and let half your family and ten of your friends know that things are not going well. While it’s totally normal to share what happens to you, good and bad, informing your uncles and German cousins won’t solve the issue.
Sit with what’s happening for a minute before blowing anyone’s phone. Do you want to talk to get some advice? Some comfort? Can you give these things to yourself first? Again, asking for these things is perfectly fine. That said, the strong tendency to search for solutions outside instead of inside ourselves does not serve us. Find balance!
I’ll admit it, this one is pretty hard to perform when you’re having a panic attack. When I’m really out of my mind, I usually have to sit down and breathe into my hands cupped over my nose until I calm down a bit.
You don’t have to cross your legs in weird positions or sit down for two hours chanting Om (though if that works for you, that’s awesome). Breathing into your belly (like babies do) can only do you good and help you deal with whatever is going on. Additional points for going outside and breathing some fresh air.
- Yell & Punch
You’re angry, frustrated, freaked out, ____ (add words that fits your situation). It needs to get out before your liver starts producing bile all over the place (not good). Try to find a spot where you can make noise or have a punching ball, and let. It. Out.
If you find it difficult to just go off and let your emotions out physically, you can practice gibberish or do some fire exercises. You can check out the 5 elements exercises that my teacher teaches here in Costa Rica.
‘You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.’ – Buddha
- Make a plan
OK, things are not going the way you want. What can you do about it in the next hour? The next few days? The next months? If you find yourself in a big dead-end in your life, whether professionally, emotionally or other, you will want to think about what it is that you want.
It is so easy to get stuck with what you won’t want in your life, but if that’s the only thing you focus on, it will be what your energy reflects and maybe attracts. Little habits can help a lot: write down what you’d like to accomplish or see happen in the year on a piece of paper every night and put it in a little bag. Make an altar with pictures and objects that remind you of both what you want to let go and create in your life.
- Don’t forget the big picture
Is what you’re worrying about right now going to be really important in five years? If not, it’s probably not such a big deal (though it still does suck while you’re in it). It’s usually the last thing we want to hear when we are going through a difficult moment, but a good reminder for yourself (friends, please stick to telling us you love us and that everything is going to be alright).
What are your tricks? Did I forget any? Let me know in the comments, and see you for the next article on Conscious Living! Thanks for reading!